Tag: goals

Is it true? Is it kind?

My mom has some good sayings. One of the most memorable is a set of two short questions:

Is it true? Is it kind?

She would pose this to me and my brother, usually after one of us had just said something nasty to the other. (Keep in mind that “questions” from a mom are generally statements). We would almost always answer with an exasperated “uh yesss mom” to the first, but then to the second we’d fumble around, trying to conjure up how the nasty statement was actually kind. We couldn’t of course, and her point was made: Keep our mouths shut if it didn’t pass both tests.

I’m going back to the basics for some of my 2013 goals and these two questions are in the lineup.

In 2009 I had a breakthrough year, led by the banner goal of “honesty in ’09”. I hadn’t been lying but needed help being more direct and forthright. I had great success, but in the process have lost some of my kindness.

Being direct is good, but being direct and kind is great. Thus I’m re learning the “is it kind” portion for 2013 and I encourage you to consider that as well.



The goal of many people’s career or business is to build it to a place where they can then kick back and “live the good life”.

Is that real success for you? I would propose that real success should be measure on a different plane than what derives comfort. That may be part of the goal, but what drives a person should not be the drive to simply gain a comfortable life.

The drive will look different for each of us, but methinks we should  stsrt getting comfortable being a bit uncomfortable in our pursuit of a great life.

Finish this sentence: anything truly worth having is worth _______ for.